In the negative there can be a positive

Friday, February 15, 2013

I started this post with the title things I love about my child which I later changed. 

There are many times I have to look past the immediate and presenting behaviour to see and appreciate my child's real attributes. 

He isn’t the hardest worker but he is the best encourager.
I was working in the garden moving stone to an area of the garden where we have a drainage problem and although he did not help shovel as much as his younger brother.  He did say “Mum, wow, look how much you’ve done already!” the encouraging words I needed to keep going on a job that took me four hours.

He can be extremely emotional at times but at least I know what he is thinking.
He is an emotional child and very unpredictable when it comes to how he is feeling or how he is going to react although it is getting easier to manage as he gets older.   He will change from one mood to another in a matter of minutes.  He can be sweet and loving and then moody, angry and aggressive in the same hour.  Over the years there has been a pattern developing that this negative behaviour seems to be worse when he is tired or hungry and knowing that leads me to more appropriate ways of dealing with him.  On the up side he always tells me what he is thinking or feeling.  And if he doesn’t tell me - I can see it in his behaviour. I let him know that I have noticed and he will often after that talk to me about the situation and his feelings. He is also remorseful and doesn't hang on to the negative emotion once he has talked through it.

What are the positives you see in your child?


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