Follow up

I’ve been putting off writing the follow up to my previous post - mainly because I wanted to be sure that the change has been permanent.

So here is how my son is tracking with his behaviour since we had our little ‘heart to heart’ chat and role play session – if you need a reminder read the previous post.
The first day after our chat was great! His teacher was surprised with the change and said to me “I don’t know what you said to him but it really worked”. The next two days posed a little challenge since his regular teachers (both of them) were away (not good timing especially when trying to institute changes to behaviour!). He did play up a little with the teachers who were standing in but each of the afternoons, I reminded him that he needs to be good and say ‘no’ if someone wants him to do something he knows is not right or not allowed.

Fortunately, the regular teachers were back the next week and every morning when I dropped him off I asked him ‘What’s the magic word?” and he replied “No”. I would walk in holding my breath every afternoon and hadn’t had any feedback from his teachers, good or bad! I figured they would say if it was worse than before, so I just asked him ‘Have you been in trouble today” and he replied “No”. Finally, yesterday I got to ask his teacher and she said “He’s been wonderful and is listening very well”. So that’s almost two weeks of change and a good sign it will continue!
I have praised him on the days he has told me he behaved well and explained how proud I am of him. The other day I told him, "tell your dad what did I feel today because you behaved so well" (thinking he’d say ‘proud’) and he said, ‘you’re impressed’. Well that’s kinda the same isn’t it?

Have you been proud of your child lately? Have they put some effort into something and succeeded?